By now, everyone is aware of the book and movie titled “Fifty Shades of Grey.” I’m here to tell you that you can find out the plot, see still pictures, view the movie trailers, and read graphic quotations – and get all you need to know without reading the book or seeing the movie. This trilogy (with “Fifty Shades Darker” and “Fifty Shades Freed”) came out in 2011-12 and gained renewed energy in 2015 with the release of a movie – on Valentine’s Day – the supposed most romantic day of the year.
Reading the host of reviews is quite interesting. One said the trilogy will “possess you, obsess you, and stay with you forever.” Really? Do you really want the rest of your life to be affected by someone’s imagination? Some reviewers are saying “boring,” or “didn’t show enough detail.” Hmmm. I’m glad I don’t know what they have been watching. I have yet to find a review which says, “right on,” “what an inspiring story,” or “something I’d take my children to – or want them to read.” Unfortunately, a lot of teens and tweens are devouring this book, and even though the movie has an “R” rating, many are seeing the movie with – and without – adult permission thanks to creative ways to enter the theater, DVDs, and the internet. If the World Wide Web is to be believed, and in this case I think it is, even the number of Christian women reading this book is astounding. Sad commentary.
Now, sex is a good thing. In its simplest form, it is what differentiates us as men and women. It’s a big factor in what attracts us to one another. It is one of the most intimate forms of relationship which can be experienced. God created it to be all these things. AND He put it into the context limited to a man and his wife. (NIV) Genesis 2:24-25: “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
The human anatomy has pretty much remained the same since the beginning. We know what we look like. We’re taught from the earliest age that certain parts of the body deserve the dignity and respect which keeps them protected and covered. Why? Because they have the ability to create new life – let alone create intense feelings. Let’s face it. Other parts of the body simply do not have that incredible function.
What in the world has happened to bring such focus to areas which are worthy of privacy? Why are we not ashamed? We all agree that violation of private areas of a child is wrong. So, when is a person not a child anymore? Why are younger and younger children experimenting with one another – and where do they get their ideas? How is it that teenage sex is becoming a normal thing? A lot of teens might pause if they think, “what if Grandma was watching me right now?” But, what if Grandma is preoccupied with reading books like “Fifty Shades?” If we accept everything we see on TV and movies, why do we agree that rape is wrong? I could ask a lot more questions, but you get the gist.
Well, the answer to “what in the world has happened” is that the enemy of our souls, the Devil, has taken something God meant for good and has made it into a twisted tool for over-satisfying imaginations and appetites. Purposefully inflicting pain on someone you love, especially during a time which is meant to express deep affection, is not an expression of the husband loving his wife mentioned in Ephesians 6:28. We agree that folks who hurt themselves and others need help! It is simply not the way it is supposed to be!
We all like stories. I find mysteries especially riveting – the ones which do not describe or show gore in disgusting and violent ways, that is. I like a good love story, too. I do find, however, that personally I must limit my reading or watching movie love stories, because they always end with boy getting girl and vice versa. While that is sweet, it is not realistic, and even the most G-rated movie can tend to feed my thoughts with growing unfulfilled yearnings – because in real life, boy does not always get the girl and vice versa!
One thing “Fifty Shades” shouts loud and clear:
“Abuse is not glamorous or cool. It is never OK, under any circumstance.”
This is a quote from an excellent article written by Mariam Grossman, MD about the destructive effects of “Fifty Shades of Grey” which deserves our attention.
Well, I’m sure this will sequel itself into another post. 🙂