This quote from renowned family therapist, Virginia Satir, sounds nice, doesn’t it? But, if the statement is true, my guess is that there are a large number of “living dead” folks running around – unmarried and married. I love Webster’s definition of a hug: “to press closely within the arms.” Who doesn’t want that?
Here are some titles gleaned from an online search:
- ♥ 10 reasons we need at least 8 hugs a day.
- ♥ 7 reasons we should be giving more hugs.
- ♥ 4 benefits of hugs for mind and body.
- ♥ 9 compelling reasons why you need hugs every day.
- ♥ “Lord, I need a hug.” (book title)
We know that touch is imperative for the tiniest among us. If babies are not held often, their emotional development is arrested. You hoo! I think it happens to the rest of us, too. I don’t think we ever outgrow that need! Can I hear a very loud, “YOU’RE RIGHT!” Truth be told, too many singles go for weeks, even months without even a good side hug. Now, I know that many married folks don’t spend a lot of daily time hugging – and I think that is a crying shame! The opportunity is there, though. Built-in hugging sounds good to me.
Personally, I am fortunate to have a very huggy church family, so I get caught up on that activity on Sunday mornings. However, I barely make the “survivor” mode. That’s 28 hugs to account for 7 days.
About 15 years ago, I began to invest in monthly massages – mainly to deal with the knots in my shoulders – but realize that it also benefits the health and welfare of body, soul, and spirit. Of course, the fact that it just feels wonderful doesn’t hurt. I certainly have never made it up to the 12 hugs a day Satir thought was necessary for growth. I doubt many have. We are a hug-deprived society, methinks.
While the word “hug” does not appear in scripture, we see the concept as a loving and protecting gesture, especially for the tiny ones among us. We get the touching image of the shepherd holding little lambs close. (Isaiah 40:11) Most notably, we see Jesus taking little children in His arms and blessing them. My guess is that Jesus laughed and played with children frequently. (Mark 9:36; Mark 10:16) Another notable example of hugging is in the story of the prodigal son, where the father throws his arms around his returning son and kisses him. (Luke 15:20) Of course, the Song of Solomon is full of intimate touching as the writer expresses an ageless love song. Now, the word, “touch” is used often, but not so much in context of warm affection – until we read of Jesus touching folks.
- ♥ He touched those who had contagious diseases, such as leprosy, fever, etc. – forbidden in the Old Testament. (Matthew 8:3; 8:15)
- ♥ He touched those who had died in order to renew physical life. (Luke 17:4)
- ♥ He touched the blind, deaf, and mute. (Matthew 9:29; 20:34)
- ♥ And many people touched Jesus and even His clothes knowing that His love and healing would result. (Matthew 14:36; Mark 3:10; 5:27-31)
So, fellow hug-deprived persons, let’s work our way up to growth – 12 hugs a day. That’s 84 hugs a week! Ha ha!