The Christian Post ran an article in the Spring of 2014 called “Sexual Atheism: Christian Dating Reveals a Deeper Spiritual Malaise” which highlights an alarming reality in today’s single society. It uses information from a 2014 survey done by christianmingle.com called State of Dating in America. While this was not limited to those who claimed to be Christians, a significant number of Christians participated. It is worth your while to look at all 81 pages of this report which includes dating etiquette, deal breakers, expectations, and a host of other information.
Out of 2,600 singles from 18 to 59 years of age, over 80% believe that engaging in any sort of sexual activity with someone outside of a committed relationship is considered as unfaithfulness. This includes flirting and texting suggestive messages and pictures. But, even though fidelity is given lip service, about 25% would consider marrying someone who has been unfaithful to them, with a slight % increase of those who admit to having been unfaithful in a relationship. So, faithfulness is important, but not so important that it is a limiting boundary in many lives. In the scale of faithfulness and temptation to infidelity, the temptation often proves more appealing – of greater value – more important – irresistible.
The Christian Post article says that 63% of the Christians surveyed indicated that they would have sex before marriage. This is not terribly surprising to us given the world we live in today. Sexual messages smack us in the face in advertising, movies, and online opportunities. We all know folks who choose to live together outside of the marriage commitment, and sometimes children are also in the picture. And, we are not surprised.
Some who say they have given their lives to Jesus Christ and are committed to honor and glorify Him are ones who admit they are sexually active outside of marriage.
What has happened to disconnect these folks from honest and straight-forward teaching on moral conduct and holy living? Is this just a reaction to strict and discompassionate lectures of the past? Is it just a reaction to the common command, “No sex before marriage,” with no solid and honest help to deal with a normal strong desire built into us by the God Who created sex and everything else?
What has happened to honest exploration of Scriptures such as I Corinthians 6:12-19:
- * I can do anything – but everything is not beneficial. I have choice!
- * God created me to glorify Him in what I choose to do.
- * Immorality – sexual practice outside of its intended parameters – is harmful to the body.
- * Therefore – choose not to harm your body – the temple of the Holy Spirit – in this way.
A much more pressing issue is, the Church has said “don’t” for centuries. But the question of “why” has not been answered adequately in order to build a good enough reason into single hearts to comply.
Just as “because I say so” is not necessarily a convincing statement to a defiant child, “because God says so” is not necessarily convincing to a person whose hormones are screaming for release.
Consider this quote from The Christian Post article;
“. . . nearly nine out of 10 self-proclaimed single Christians are, in practice, sexual atheists. In other words, God has nothing to say to them on that subject of any consequence or, at least anything meaningful enough to dissuade them from following their own course of conduct. It is the ultimate oxymoron. A person who at once believes in a wise, sovereign and loving God who created them and all things, can also believe simultaneously He should not, cannot or will not inform their thinking or living sexually. It reminds me of those famous red letters in Luke’s Gospel where Jesus says, “Why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord’ and do not do what I say?” (Luke 6:46, NIV) There is a disconnect between identity and activity.”
Well, my brain is off and running on this topic! I hope this has spurred some new thinking for you. Your comments most welcomed!